August 8, 2014


First, kudos to you for seeking to support your daughter and her emotions post-divorce. We as adults forget that teens are going through intense hormonal changes, and those hormones start raging about two years before any outward physical changes can be seen. Teenage...

June 20, 2014

I’m a childless stepmom. It’s not difficult to say and doesn’t give me pause. It’s a way of life that I chose, and continue to choose.


That said, it’s always been difficult to explain my desire to remain childless. Having gone to both a Christian academy through my hig...

June 17, 2014


My blogging began on a family vacation back in 2008. I started with notes on a legal pad as we sat in a traffic making our way back from Disney World in Florida. I was a little tired of one kid wanting the air conditioner turned down while another wanted the radio tur...

January 7, 2014



The following Robert Frost poem is one of my favorites. It has always spoken to me but became especially poignant to me after I married. It actually reminds me of my stepmom journey. To all of my fellow stepmoms, I dedicate this poem to you. The road that you have ch...

August 11, 2013


In his lifetime, Vincent Van Gogh sold only one painting. But since that time, his fame has reached epic proportions. Today, he is widely regarded as one of history’s greatest painters and an important contributor to the foundations of modern art. People visit museums...

August 7, 2013


More than 25 years ago John and Joann split. It was not amicable. The day the divorce was finalized, Joann left the courthouse, promptly secured a marriage license and married her boyfriend. Given that the divorce had been long and drawn out, it was not surprising to...

March 31, 2013

If your stepchild is asking to bring a friend with her on a visit to your home, try to determine why. Does she feel uncomfortable? Is she homesick? Are there difficulties between you and your stepdaughter?

Focusing on these issues first will allow you to make a consci...

March 11, 2013


Millions of stepmothers exist the world over.  While it is difficult to quantify just how many stepmothers exist, the Pew Research Center estimates there are over 14 million in the U.S. alone.  Are you one of the more than 14 million wicked stepmothers? After all, it...

March 1, 2013


The short answer is yes! It does get easier! Research indicates that it takes 4-7 years for a stepfamily to gel. Of course, each family is different and these norms could take longer. But all in all, once the family is established, so are the parameters of acceptable...

November 14, 2012

My mother and father divorced when I was three. But they managed to have a very close friendship throughout their lives until his death more than 15 years ago. Though divorced, my parents managed to make holidays painless and nearly seamless for my sister and me. We bo...

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