The holidays can be not only one of the best times of the year for stepfamilies but can almost certainly be fraught with anxiety and false expectations. Travels plans are often up in the air. Parents must switch their custodial patterns. Financial obligations (child support?) curtail gift giving . There is never enough time. The list goes on and on. But certainly one of the cures for what ails us this holiday season may be the ability of each and every one of us to create tra